So, lately I've been getting more and more afraid of having two kids. I know I was nervous to have one, but I had no idea what it all entailed. So I think I was more afraid of the unknown. But the littlest things lately will trigger a fear within me. How do I get up in the morning with two kids? Like, which one do I get up first? Cameron has been super clingy lately. How will I handle that transition as a new person joins our family and Chad's working? How do I share my love with two different kids?
I know for some of you experienced moms of two or more, this isn't a big deal. I mean, I'm sure every mom has these feelings at some point. It was hard with Cameron and somehow I made it through, so I'm sure I'll make it through this time, too. I also know that Heavenly Father doesn't give us a spirit of fear, so this is coming from somewhere else. But I'm still a bit apprehensive.
Any advice is welcome!
5 comments:
It is scary and it is hard sometimes, but it is also one of the best things that will ever happen to you. And you are right, Heavenly Father will help you through everything. You will be able to do it and you will see that Cameron will be changed in the best way possible. Lucy is a different person because of Charlotte and I love it. They really love each other and I never would have seen that if I only had one. I'm not saying it's not difficult at first...just that you will be able to do it! Oh, and I voted for Charlotte!
No advice here. Well, maybe... I think older siblings can be a great help to younger ones, playing with them and giving them love when you can't give them as much attention as you could your first child. You certainly have bounteous love, but probably not time and energy. Thank goodness that Cameron will give your new one extra attention of his own, and LOVE!
Having two children is easier than having one... except when it's harder.
I was really worried about going from one child to two children because Luke took 100% of my time and I couldn't figure out how I would come up with more time. My mom told me she cried every time she brought a child home from the hospital. The logistics are daunting but work themselves out.
I could write a thesis on this topic but I will sum it up by saying that the best thing I ever did for Luke was give him Noah. Really, he's much better off for it and they meet each other's needs in ways I never could.
The third gets even less attention and I feel badly about it until I see Luke and Noah stepping in to read to Isaac, snuggle him, sing him sweet songs and just generally fill his bucket while I take care of other things.
You'll do great!
I had all of your same feelings. I felt bad for Gracie....like she might think she wasn't "enough" or loved as much anymore. I'll be honest - It is hard adjusting to two kids! It's definitely possible and you'll be fine, of course, but it's also totally normal to be going through these feelings about fear of the unknown. A newborn sleeps all the time so that will help in the beginning to get your schedule adjusted. You'll still have alone time with Cameron then.
You'll do great, Ginnie!
C girl names for you (compile by me, J & mom):
Cadence, Camille, Candi, Candace, Claire, Clara, Connie, Clarice, Cray-Z, Callie, Caitlyn, Carlie, Callista, Carey, Clementine, Carine, Carmen, Carol, Caroline, Carrigan, Carolyn, Carrington, Cassidy, Cassie, Cassandra, Cathryn, Cecelia, Celia, Celeste, Celine, Chantal, Cierra, Charisse, Charlene, Chastity, Charity, Chelsea, Chloe, Charlotte, Charmaine, Cheryl, Christine, Cinderella, Cindy, Cicely, Claudia, Clarissa, Cara, Clara, Colleen, Colette, Contstance, Contessa, Cora, Corinne, Cornelia, Corina, Courtney, Cynthia, Crystal, Corona (light).
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